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“Ask yourself if you are in this for the long run— if it’s only your weight you want to change or if you are willing to use your eating patterns as a portal to the inner universe. And if the answer is the latter, then there is no end to what you can learn, be, understand, become.”
Geneen Roth
Author of Women, Food & God
"All any feeling wants is to be welcomed with tenderness. It wants room to unfold. It wants to relax and tell its story. It wants to dissolve like a thousand writhing snakes that with a flick of kindness become harmless strands of rope."
— Geneen Roth (via myeyelasheschatchmysweat)
"I live between fearing doom and wishing for it."
— Geneen Roth, Women Food and God: An Unexpected Path to Almost Everything (via hhyperphagia)
"Compulsion is despair on the emotional level. The substances, people, or activities that we become compulsive about are those that we believe capable of taking our despair away.
Despair."
Despair."
— Roth, Geneen (1992-07-01). When Food Is Love: Exploring the Relationship Between Eating and Intimacy (Kindle Locations 252-254). Plume. Kindle Edition. (via adailyfightforhealth)
"Compulsive behavior, at its most fundamental, is a lack of self-love; it is an expression of a belief that we are not good enough."
— Roth, Geneen (1992-07-01). When Food Is Love: Exploring the Relationship Between Eating and Intimacy (Kindle Locations 307-308). Plume. Kindle Edition. (via adailyfightforhealth)
"When you believe without knowing you believe that you are damaged at your core, you also believe that you need to hide that damage for anyone to love you. You walk around ashamed of being yourself. You try hard to make up for the way you look, walk, feel. Decisions are agonizing because if you, the person who makes the decision, is damaged, then how can you trust what you decide? You doubt your own impulses so you become masterful at looking outside yourself for comfort. You become an expert at finding experts and programs, at striving and trying hard and then harder to change yourself, but this process only reaffirms what you already believe about yourself — that your needs and choices cannot be trusted, and left to your own devices you are out of control"
— Geneen Roth (via hotbloodedwomanchild)
"Staying where you are with what you are feeling or seeing or sensing is the first step in ending the obsession with food. And although it seems as if ending the obsession is what we all want to do, we actually want to keep it more. And for very good reasons. Obsession gives you something to do besides having your heart shattered by heart-shattering events."
— Geneen Roth, Women, Food and God (via words-that-heal)
"They can relate to the belief that if they keep themselves wounded and damaged, they will be loved."
— Geneen Roth, Women, Food and God (via words-that-heal)
"Hell is wanting to be somewhere different from where you are. Being one place and wanting to be somewhere else…Wanting life to be different from what it is. That’s also called leaving without leaving. Dying before you die. It’s as if there is a part of you that so rails against being shattered by love that you shatter yourself first."
— Geneen Roth (via shapedlikemyself)
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